Dealing with a mistake

All of us have done things we are not proud of. We may have done something unethical or hurt the feelings of someone. The first step is to recognize that we made a mistake.

We must not be harsh to ourself and forgive ourself. Only when we accept the mistake and unconditionally forgive ourself,do weprevent ourself from repeating it in future.

Enjoy the pursuit of your goals

When we are on the road to make our dreams come true, the path may seem difficult and the focus is always on achieving the goal.

We should not forget to enjoy this journey as this is a beautiful time. The pursuit itself is the reward for our hard work.

Don't be conscious of the way you look

Most people do not like some aspect of their physical appearance. However, this should not be something that causes angst or unhappiness. We must learn to accept our physical appearance.

We may or may not decide to work on changing it but the first step in being happy is accepting the way we look. We must realize that a beautiful heart is much more important than a beautiful body.

A roadblack might give you a better direction

Things don't always go the way we expect them to. There will be times that we will not have success despite our best efforts.

A roadblock in our path might provide us a different direction, possibly leading us to a path to find greater treasures. We should not let it discourage us. Instead let it motivate us to try again with renewed energy.

Ask for help when you need it

There will be times in life when all of us will need emotional support. There should be no shame in asking for help when you really need it.

If we close our eyes, we will be able to think of a person who can help us in this time. We know what support we need and we need to try to get it.

Being successful in your head

Success or failure is more in the mind than in the physical world. We need to picturize ourselves as being successful before we can actually achieve success.

If we think of ourselves as failing, there is no way we can succeed. If we believe ourselves to be succeeding, there is no way we can fail.

Not feeling in control

It happens to all of us that sometimes we do not feel in control of our lives. We may start feeling helpless and become a spectator to events.

It is in such times that we must remember that it is we who will write the story to our lives. We must have the faith that our destiny is in our own hands.

Challenges make you wiser

There are times when we get overawed by challenges in our life. At this times, we may begin doubting ourselves if we are capable of handling these challenges.

We must remember that the Universe will not give us a challenge until we are ready to face it. It is a way of making us a stronger and wiser person.

Know how much is enough

A lot of our discontent stems from the fact that we do not have enough money for all the things we might want. But most of us do not know how much we actually want. Not knowing how much we want but still knowing we don't have enough is like knowing that we are lost but not knowing where the destination is.

We need to spend time alone and listen to ourselves. We will be surprised to know that we really do not want too much and our goals are very much achievable. This will give us a sense of calmness in our lives.

Suffering from an inferiority complex

An inferiority complex is the most crippling emotion to carry. It is also the most unfair emotion to oneself. Some people are better endowed with certain qualities; but each one of us has limitless potential to achieve whatever one can imagine.

A rule of the universe is that an inferiority complex saps the energy out of our body and our mind. Instead we should focus our energies on pursuing our goals and we will be surprised at what we achieve.

Have faith that your actions will bear fruit

Sometimes we find that despite our best efforts, we are unable to achieve success. At these times, it is most important to keep the faith that we will succeed.

It is a law of the universe that desire plus required action equals desired result. It may not happen immediately but it will surely happen, sometimes when we least expect it.

Live within your means

One of the easiest ways of having a stress free life is to live within our means. If we realize that lot of our unnecessary wants will just lead us to an unending cycle, we will not be motivated to overstretch our means.

With limited wants, we will experience financial independence and the opportunity to appreciate the wonders of nature. Even a limited degree of detachment from materialism will give a sense of serenity to our lives.

Focus on what counts

Usually most of the things which spoil our day are the minor irritants. We get bothered by the things which may not even be important to think about.

If you look back at your life, you will not even remember the small things which bothered you at the time. We need to focus on the things that really count in our lives and not get bothered by the small things.

Embrace people of all races and nationalities

People all over the world are essentially the same. They wish to be happy and want their loved ones to find happiness.

We need to be tolerant of people different from us and accept the differences. Our differences are what adds rich color to our lives

Live each day one at a time

The key to a happy life is to make each day happy. Just like drops make up an ocean, a happy life is made up of every day lived to the fullest.

Each morning when you get up, make a conscious effort that you will try and make this day special. You will be happy and spread happiness all around

Don't get angry if you fail a few times to kick bad habits

In the course of life, we tend to acquire bad habits like smoking ,alcoholism, laziness, constant anxiety etc. We will be able to get rid of any habit we want to only when we are ready to do so.

We should not get angry with ourselves if we fail to get rid of these habits easily. We should not despair and keep trying. Be kind to yourself as you would be to others.

View work as service

One of the reasons for us not finding happiness in our work is because of our perception. Work is often seen as drudgery necessary to survive in life.

We will find true happiness if we view our work as a service we are providing to the end consumer and how his life is getting better because of us. View work as our duty to the universe rather than as a means to earn a paycheck.

Don't give up in bad times

Giving up when things are not going our way is choosing the easy way out. Success is sweetest when we have not taken the easy way.

We need to consider this phase as a test for us. If you put our mind to it, there is no test which we will not be able to clear.

There is so much to learn from children

As we grow up in life, the innocence of childhood gets lost in the stress of everyday life. There is a lot we can learn from children.

We must learn to laugh again like a child who sees everything in the world as a wonder. When we laugh without a care, we melt away the stress from our life

Giving to the needy

All of us come to this world with no belongings and leave without anything. We do not own anything and just rent from the universe for our needs.

Since there is nothing that we own, we will not be poorer by giving to the needy. In fact, we become richer by sharing our possessions.

Do not compete with their neighbours

It is not uncommon to spend time and energy trying to keep up with neighbours and friends. Life becomes a competition where the prize is not even worthwhile.

We must realize that even if life is a race, it is only with ourselves. The needs and wants of different people are not the same and we must focus on our true needs.

Take a break

It is essential that we take regular breaks from the fentic pace of our existence to recharge our batteries. Taking a break does not taking a week long vacation, in fact a half hour spent alone could be more relaxing than a beach holiday.

When we spend time alone, we must think about our desires and our fears. We need to focus on how our lives is going and put all the negatives in perspective.

Knowing what we want

Most of us do not know what we want in life. Our desires keep changing because we have never really taken the time to talk to ourselves and understand our true wishes.

There is nothing beyond us once we know what we want. We just need to truly want it and put in the required hard work for it.

Knowing your true potential

In the battles of day-to-day life, we tend to forget how much power we have and what we can accomplish if we set our mind to it. We start doubting ourselves if we do not achieve things we set out to.

Each of us has infinite potential. We have the power to make anything we imagine a reality. We must not underestimate ourselves in our mind.

Dealing with bad relationships

One of the most difficult things to deal with is a bad relationship. A bad relationship drains us emotionally and spiritually. The best way to deal with a bad relationship is with complete honesty.

We must ask ourself honestly if we are at fault and if there is something we need to change in our behavior. Most times, we will realize that we also at some fault. Changing our behavior may be the first step in turning a new leaf in the relationship.

Experience the bond that binds all of us

All of us feel love for our family and friends. The true test of being alive is when you feel love for everybody around you. When we feel love towards all creatures, we feel at one with this universe and life seems a blissful journey.

Next time you look at the waiter serving you at the restaurant, the person waiting at the bus station or even the dog being walked in the park; don't just smile, but smile with all your heart. Feel love for them as they go along their daily life. You will be able to experience the bond that binds us all.

Don't get harsh even when you are angry

Most of us will lose our temper and say unkind things even our loved ones. Later we often feel sorry about what we have said.

Next time we start getting angry, we must consciously try and forgive the person. If we accept their mistakes and are kind, we will realize that our anger evaporates.

Appreciate the beauty of this world

Many times we get so caught up in the problems of our day to day life that we forget to appreciate the beauty of this world. If you look around you, there is so much to appreciate and wonder about.

The tall mountains, the vast sea, the diversity of the flora and the fauna in the world is enough to convince anyone of the boundless beauty around us. We need to take a break to realize the wonder of this world in which we live.

Don't worry about the future

We may spend a lot of time thinking about the future, being anxious about the possible scenarios and planning for the different situations. Agonizing about what is going to happen is one of the most futile activities one can indulge in.

Looking back, we realize that things always fall into place perfectly. They may not seem perfect initially but only when the jigsaw is complete can you see how beautifully the pieces have fit in.

Feeling smaller than somebody

Sometime, we start having self-doubt and starting feeling smaller in front of other people who may be doing better in life. We must always remember that we are all the children of the universe and are all equals.

We must not be harsh on ourselves if our circumstances have not allowed us to achieve as much as someone else. If we keep a positive and happy mind, we will be able to overcome any circumstances and realize our dreams.